"As we look at things within our circle of concern, it becomes apparent that there are some things over which we have no real control and others that we can do something about."
So to sum up:
Circle of Influence = thins we CAN do something about
"By determining which of these two circles is the focus of most of our time and energy, we can discover much about the degree of our proactivity.
Proactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Influence. They work on things they can do something about. The nature of their energy is positive, enlarging, and magnifying, causing their circle of influence to increase.
Reactive people, on the other hand, focus their efforts in the circle of concern. THey focus on the weakness of other people, the problems in the environment, and the circumstances over which they have no control. Their focus results in blaming and accusing attitudes, reactive language, and increasing feelings of victimization."
These quotes especially struck a chord with me because there is an entire subset of one of the communities in which I socialize that devotes a good deal of time to trying to pick apart other people and gossip about them online. It appears to be a contest of trying to win attention and sympathy by pretending to be victims of the people they gossip about. And this is one of those moments where I am so grateful I never got involved in any of that drama and devoted my time and energy instead to developing the success of my business and continually practicing the arts in which I strive to improve my skills. Because just as the quote says, I want the kind of energy that is "positive, enlarging, and magnifying." But I certainly have my own areas in the "Circle of Concern" as well. I passed on a lot of opportunities in the past (like a couple great jobs years ago that I should not have turned down) and despite the fact that thinking about them won't ever accomplish anything, I very often think on them and regret them.
So if you've read this far I'd like to know, in what areas of your life do you feel you are proactive and in what areas do you focus on areas of concern?