September 21st, 2009


My attempt to be "giving"

I did something Friday night I can't believe I did. I think it has something to do with this quote that I have on my wall:

"We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give." ~Winston Churchill

I have made an effort this year to be more giving. Because I have had to fend for myself all my life (I had a roof over my head as a child but no responsible parents around to make sure I was cared for or had enough to eat) as a result I am a pretty self centered person. Taking care of myself has always been necessary and has always had to come first. So I'm embarking on this adventure of making sacrifices to give to others.

So Friday night's party was supposed to start at 7:30pm. They called me around 7:20pm to tell me they were just leaving to head to my studio so they would be late. To make matters worse, there was an accident/back up on the bridge because some one had actually driven off the bridge (or so this party told me). So they arrived an hour late.

They are still required to pay full price, late or not. But the problem was their party of 10 had dwindled and only 5 girls showed up. So basically since they split the price 5 ways instead of 10 ways, they had to pay double what they were expecting. Only they somehow misunderstood the pricing and thought they would only have to pay $35 each even with only 5 girls. Imagine their shock and dismay when I had to break it to them that the price on the website still stands and they had to pay full price even with half as many girls and with only an hour left for what was supposed to be a 2-hour party.

I don't know if it was the looks of disappointment on their faces or what. But I felt bad or I felt generous or something and on the spot I offered them $50 off their party. They accepted the compromise and I took the $50 loss even though I was in no way responsible for them leaving late for their own party or them having half their party drop out.

The irony is, I had cut the party before them on Thursday night a $50 break as well. So I'm up to a $100 loss this week for the sake of being generous. I'm not quite sure what to make of this. I should probably feel bad for losing $100 this week. Or I should probably feel good for being so generous to clients. But I feel neither. Maybe I need some more practice at this whole giving thing? At what point does it start feeling good? Or is it supposed to?
socks and cat

To help me stay on track...

My day:

  • shower
  • breakfast
  • quiet time
  • E-mail Saturday's hotel bachelorette party a confirmation
  • E-mail Sunday's party about change of location
  • review e-mail for new software
  • Call MindBody to arrange for software training
  • Clean studio for class tonight
  • Refund Maureen for credit for her gift certificate
  • refund level 4 student
  • Call Z-Bar
  • Make G appointment
  • shop Trader Joe's for bread and stuff
  • Review level 6 lesson plan
  • Teach level 6 at 7:15pm

Worth $40 to get to wear my costume for a couple hours?

I have finally made the decision to attend the 4-day long healing workshop that is the same weekend as SteamCon. I have the time off. I have the money to pay for it. And I have two instructors on standby willing to cancel their social plans for that weekend should anyone want to book a pole party while I'm away at the workshop. It works, so I'm going to make it happen.

On the upside, I will be able to attend a tiny bit of Steamcon. The vendors open up at 1pm on Friday afternoon. I don't have to be at the workshop until 6pm Friday evening. That leaves me Friday afternoon free to shop. And of course Saturday night there is a dance at Steamcon (it wouldn't be a convention without a formal dance!). The workshop gets out at 6pm on Saturday and the dance at Steamcon goes from 8pm to 1:00am. So I will get to wear my costume to the dance. Although I probably should leave the dance around 11pm so I can get up early for the workshop the next morning. I wonder if it's really worth the $40 cost to get into the convention just to shop for a couple hours and then attend a dance for about an hour to an hour and a half. Hmmmmm.