September 19th, 2008

machine gun kitty

sad

So since I haven't been able to read LJ in a week or so, I missed seeing this for myself. But apparently some one made a post on LJ about one of my friends. That opened a forum where other people could then post comments about her, basically bashing her or picking apart what they think is wrong with her. I don't think I have to tell anyone that this was a basic goth scene group type. I don't see this kind of group attack much outside the scene.

I can only make one strong statement about this that I know to be absolutely true. When some one bashes some one else, when some one makes fun of some one else in a public or group forum, when some one gossips about others, it is a sure and absolute sign that something in them is hurt. Happy people don't feel the need to bash others...period. Being unkind to others, while inexcusable, is a cry for help.

Every time I see this behavior in the goth scene, I wonder about the people doing it. I wonder what hurt them. Were they abused as a child? Did they go through a recent break up that caused them pain? Did they have a traumatic event in their lives that scarred them emotionally? Or do they just have a job or career or romantic partner that makes them unhappy on some level? The next time you hear some one gossip about some one else or form an unkind opinion about some one in a group setting or online, ask them, who or what hurt you? And what can we do to make it not hurt so that you won't feel the need to inflict the same pain on others?
socks and cat

Because I've been meaning to get to this for a month

Payroll for employees finally added up and transferred to the payroll account so the payroll service can take care of it. Jeez that is a load off my back. I have two instructors plus two more instructor trainees to pay. Plus 2 more new trainees on top of that who will be on the payroll starting in January. That is a lot for one little girl with a learning disability to manage. I continue to be amazed that I have yet to screw up one single paycheck. Unless of course you count the fact that I continually forget to write myself a paycheck. That might be considered a small crew up.