One of the hardest things for me to do as a business owner is refer my own students and clients to the new pole school here in Seattle. Yes, I give my business to the competition. Although I like to think of us as co-op-etition. The owner is my friend and working and practicing with her has made me a better dancer and a better teacher. Being disabled, there are so many things I learn and then forget. She refreshes my memory every time we practice together and without her I would have lost a good deal of my teaching skills to my memory loss. In May we plan on taking a trip to Canada together to take lessons from an international pole dance champion.
So now that I have more business than I can handle, I'm sending some her way. It's scary. I mean this is my livelihood and my life, and yet I'm sharing it. I have good reason to do it though (other than what I've already mentioned), I could make an entire post about that separately. Some of my former students have also found their own way to her. I have so many introductory classes that I'm not always able to offer intermediate classes every session. One that didn't want to wait, is taking her intermediate class instead. Another one of my former students simply makes a point of studying with anyone and everyone in town that teaches pole dancing (in addition to going out of town to learn from other teachers). So I was her first pole teacher and my friend is now her fourth.
My friend said something to me last night that made me feel SO much better about sharing my clients with her. She said that my former students have commented to her about how nurturing I am and how comfortable I made them feel. I was just glowing when I heard this. I mean even though they had such a positive experience with me, they didn't have to share this with their new pole teacher. And when you're taking women on this kind of journey to parts of themselves that they keep buried for good reasons, being nurturing and making them comfortable is exactly what they need to feel free to express themselves in this new and powerful way. So now I feel so much better about sharing, knowing that even as they continue their journey with her, they feel strongly enough about what I've done with them to openly share it with her and with others.