March 7th, 2005

socks and cat

How your marriage impacts your health

I've often talked about how having a job you love and enjoy benefits every aspect of your life. Now there's a study that proves something similar with happy relationships. Your marriage has an impact on your health:

Study: A happy marriage can help mend physical wounds

From the article:

"Overall, couples took longer to heal when asked to thrash out points of conflict than neutral issues. Hostile couples - peppering both discussions with criticism, sarcasm and put-downs - healed the slowest. It took them 40% longer, or two more days, to heal, and they also produced less of the proteins linked to healing."


"On the upside, good marriages may buffer couples against the stress of demanding jobs in which the worker has little control. In a study with 201 married adults, those in high-strain jobs had higher blood pressure at the start, says University of Toronto psychiatrist Brian Baker.

A year later, though, spouses in pleasurable marriages actually improved a couple of points in diastolic (bottom) blood pressure readings, despite their rough jobs. Meanwhile, those who seldom enjoyed talking or activities with their spouses had about a 3-point rise in blood pressure after coping with stressful jobs for a year

Does anyone have any personal experiences with this that they'd like to share? Feel free to post in comment!
Red Headed Kitten

quote of the day

I have some one special who includes a new quote at the end of every e-mail he sends me. One of the quotes he sent me today touched me because it really applies to my life:

I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true. I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound to live by the light that I have. I must stand
with anybody that stands right, stand with him while he is right, and
part with him when he goes wrong.

I am amazed at the number of people I have had to part with because they went wrong. I have had to let people go because they gossiped, because they made fun of or jokes at the expense of others because they are different, because they were financially irresponsible to the point of putting others at risk, because they weren't truthful or because they were judgmental or critical to the point where they actually went through the trouble of trying to find things wrong with every person and situation in their lives and rejected positive, constructive influences and suggestions.

Please tell me I'm not the only one that has had to part with people when they go wrong. And does anyone know the source of that quote?