May 13th, 2004

socks and cat

quote/question of the day

My quote for the day is from a book I'm reading that challenges the notion of romantic love. It asserts that we are programmed by society to think of loving ourselves as taboo and rather to seek out some one to love (who will love us back). I'm interested in your opinion on this quote:

"The self contained, emotionally autonomous, intellectually free individual is the greatest threat to the institutions that want to control us. We see attempts to manipulate almost everywhere - in politics, religion, advertising, entertainment. We are programmed to 'fall' for the hunk or honey of a certain aesthetic type, and to believe that these images of sex and beauty mean 'love'. Then these images can be used to sell us anything from cigarettes to movie tickets. And they are, they are."

-Peter McWilliams
Kitten dancing in a cage2

tip or don't tip?

Question: At the club I work at as a dancer, should I tip the bartender?

Is employee to employee tipping normal? When I worked at the Catwalk I always gave a tip when redeeming my free drink coupons. The bartenders sometimes thanked me so I assume it was appreciated.

I started doing that as well at the club I work at now although it felt a little funny because the relationship with the bartenders is not as anonymous as it was at the Catwalk. In fact the supervising bartender works together with the DJ to pretty much take care of us - they aren't just anonymous drink servers. The supervising bartender has also been kind enough to make drinks for us and bring them to us on our go-go stages without even asking for a drink ticket in return. He's more than a co-worker, I think of him as a friend.

So I asked the other dancer, "Do you tip when you redeem your drink tickets?" She said no, because they are effectively just giving our tip back when they pay us. I'm not sure about that because I think the tip is the bartender's money and the pay is the club's money. But I do feel a little silly tipping a fellow employee at the club.

Tip or don't tip? What do you think?
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