I have to explain to each one of these women that I have already turned away other parties that wanted to book their time slot. I kept my end of the bargain by not taking their spot away from them and selling it to another bachelorette party. I turned down money to hold that spot for them. So the answer is no, I'm sorry but you can't have your $100 deposit back.
My question is, what kind of friend would do this to their friend? Why would you say that yes I want to join this bachelorette pole party and pay a small portion of it to be there only to back out at the last minute and stick your friend with the bill? Why do so many women settle for friends like this? Do they not think they deserve better? Or do people who have you buy them tickets to something and then don't show up and don't pay you back for the ticket just have other outstanding qualities as friends that makes them worth keeping even though they periodically bail on you and leave you stuck paying their share of the bill?