Girl who dances in a cage (cagekitten) wrote,
Girl who dances in a cage

delayed gratification - a lost art?

I was having a conversation with some one about this, and I was wondering how other people feel about it. It seems like delaying gratification is a lost art in our culture. People eat what they want to eat when they want to eat it. They buy what they want, even if they can't afford it. And most people that I know, are sleeping with the people they date within the span of just a few dates. As a culture, Americans seem to simply grab what they want when they want it.

I feel like a bit of a freak because of my delayed gratification ethic. Note that it is an ethic, and not ALWAYS in practice. But I strive for it. To me, delaying gratification is one of the important components in a fulfilling and stable life. But why do I feel like I'm the only one doing it? Am I the only person that saves for years and years for a car rather than going into debt for one? Am I the only person who eats healthy, and saves the bad for you treats for only a couple times per week or few times per month? Am I the only person out there who doesn't have sex with some one just because I'm dating them and I find them sexually attractive? And granted I purchase impulsively and have little self control when it comes to shopping, but I do so with money I have and never go into debt to indulge the impulsiveness. I'm inherently lazy and if I had my way I might sit on the couch all day and eat bon bons and watch tv. But I wait until after my 8 to 14 hour work day before I do that (and they're probably sugar free bon bons I'm eating).

Am I a freak? Or are there others in our country and in our culture who see the benefits to putting off what they want until the appropriate and most beneficial time? Has anyone else tried this with any aspect of your lives (food, sex, purchasing things, sports, cleaning the house, homework, anything at all), even one? And if so, what were the results? Or if you didn't do it with some aspect of your life, were there negative results?

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