And look at Paris Hilton. She used to be famous for the amount of clubbing she did. In an interview for Newsweek she said, "Before my life was about having fun. But when I had time to reflect, I felt empty inside. I want to leave a mark on the world." Now she is a philanthropist that has taken on several worthy causes including a charity mission she went on to Rwanda. Now that she has something meaningful and fulfilling in her life, she doesn't club as much. She doesn't need it.
Jack Osbourne used to club and party like crazy. Then he wanted something more fulfilling and started 6 months of intense training so he could climb the 3,000 foot El Capitan in Yosemite. He lost 70 pounds during his training which included daily 5 mile runs and an intense stay at a sweltering Muay Thai boxing camp near Bangkok. The actual climbing of that 3,000 foot rock took so many days that he and his fellow climbers actually had to sleep on narrow ledges hundreds of feet above the ground, tied on to metal pegs hammered into cracks in the rock. Here's the clincher, he reflected back on his clubbing days and said that he was just, "going to clubs, pretending to be happy."
Over and over again, people who club have given it up when they found something that actually fulfilled them, challenged them and gave their lives purpose. When I found a career that made me feel that I was making a difference in people's lives, I cut so far back on my clubbing that I hardly every went anymore. But as I make an effort to start clubbing again recently, I wonder...is what was true for Paris and Jack true for all of us? Does the fact that I want to club more mean that my career is less fulfilling now? Is everyone at the clubs just trying to fill an emptiness inside them or just fooling themselves into thinking they are happy there? Or are goth clubs an exception because they revolve around socializing and community? Or not an exception because like normal clubs, they involve drinking and socializing to the point where people forget their problems or their emptiness?