I finally asked another pole teacher. She explained that you have to use your thigh and hip in the hold...and I still couldn't figure it out.
I saw a video demonstrating how to do the move on a website...and I still couldn't figure it out.
I tried using my foot on the hold, which was wrong, making for a lovely purple bruise on the top of my foot...but I was starting to figure it out.
Then...tonight...I FIGURED IT OUT! Nothing beats the thrill of accomplishing a new trick. Please enjoy it with me, comments appreciated!: